Hi Toots,

I am driving myself crazy. I am my own worst enemy right now.

Plans....I haven't made any, but it would be a great idea if I worked on that instead of focusing on him.

I just can't seem to wrap my brain around how he can put his friends first, always, instead of his family.

Our D wanted him to come over do fireworks with us last night and told her no because he was going to a friend's party. WOW, how can a parent do that. I guess I always put my family first. I was the one who had to hold her while she cried and that broke my heart. And his heart, (well he has a thumping gizzard for a heart) is so cold towards us.I have lost all respect for him.

I know this is a stupid question, what kind of boundaries do you set in a marriage?


H: 49
W: 47
D: 6
M: 6 1/2 yrs
H: Bomb #1 6-2010
H: Bomb #2 7-2011
H: Separated: 7-11-11
Reconciling 2-2012
Separated: 1-31-15 (I asked him to move out)