Hi! Im new to this, but read your post & thought I should answer...My WAH has someone else (lives with her!) for the past 4 mos and is still intimate with me...At times I feel this is not right, but I feel we connect in a way like never before. It's really a personal choice - but don't pressure H into answering...you will only push H away. Don't let your mind wander to imagine or think thoughts that you shouldn't ( I know it's hard not to!)...Hang in there!