seperated 4 months

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So we are still married, and she is with an om, this is something my w would not have done and so I guess she is in the fog, and sandi is probably right. My w said one of the things she wants to do is be a good mother, but a good mother of a 13 yr old d doesnt date married men while still married. I cant fix her, I can only fix me and be the best dad I can. My d came out to us as lesbian last month, and I wonder if this is truly who she is or if seperation has something to do with it. My d doesnt talk about the seperation, so I dont know how it is affecting her. I worry about her so much. I imagine family therapy is not something to ask w about or is it, any suggestions. Also my w mother was the most horrible person and so I guess my w thinks she is a good mom at this point because she is still better than her own mother.