seperated 4 months

[help67]

Honestly, I want to understand all I can about where I am at and I don't want to play games with my w or hurt her anymore. I also don't want to give up on us, she dealt with a lot, but I believe that we are here to be together and not give up on each other, the three of us, me, my w and d. My w told me it would have to be a new beginning, and these last few months felt like that, of course I didn't know about the om. I still don't know the whole timeline, but I believe it has at least been an ea for awhile, and she said dating but I don't know if its a pa yet. My w needed that connection. Do I ask her about timeline or at this point it doesn't matter. So I know Sandi you are looking at it from the affair side, but does the addiction and my behavior change the wording. Has anyone ever heard of people in this sitch that were friends and got back as it evolved or is there reasons why this is impossible. Again I only want to understand all I can, and I appreciate everyones help. I sound like a newbie I guess as maybe I still am detached and needy and this is why we cant be friends now, but is this the way to tell her.