RAI and SunnyB -- thanks for your kind words and support. They mean a lot.
I was thinking the other day that if he wanted to work on the relationship now, it would be much harder for me to agree to that. I don't know that I'd be willing to do that anymore. Last night I was trying to think of positives in our M, and it was really tough. And yet it was easy for me to think of times when I felt disrespected or dismissed or simply not cherished. I don't know how he really felt-- I have a drawer filled with cards that have plenty of loving words on them, but his actions didn't back that up. And even now, he'll say one thing, but his actions don't always back that up.
I may post later about some recent co-parenting things that have come up that I'm hoping I handled ok...
I'm certainly still a work in progress but grateful for the support I've gotten here because it has helped me get to where I am!