This is my struggle then. My w should have left me sooner, but she didn't, she has her own issues and is also very caring and forgiving. She is also very smart, and so I don't know how much of a fog she is truly in.
When she left I told her day one, I would be the h I knew I could be and prayed she didn't give up. She said I would have to do the deep work long time, but she would not promise anything, how could she. Months later she said its not about "look I am acting better, forgive me, lets get back together" She said she knows I am doing good work, and hopes it is for my own sake. She says we are family, have this long history and she will always love me, but I know she needs to heal on her time and I cant help her. So I know how Sandi worded how I should tell her I wont be in an open m, but I am wondering if it is me being harsh again and she will think these last few months when we were getting closer as friends as me just doing it to get her back. I was doing it because I feel it, I love her, and want us to heal and live an amazing life together as a family again, I know in my heart, all my being that I have changed and will keep improving even though she cant know that yet. So is there a different way for me to word it because of my sitch. I love her, she was my best friend once, I don't want to hurt her anymore.
Me:47 W:47 D:12 T:27yrs. M:17yrs. S:10/14 Wife wants legal sep., which can be divorce after 1 yr. om b 7/15 but probably a lot longer
