Hello from south of la la land

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Ok - fell of my PMA/as if perch today. So hard to keep this up with MLCer in home.

H came back from walk as kids and I were clearing dishes from 4th of July brunch. I wanted to get out the door for a walk with kids and dog before he returned but he came back quicker than expected. I was still mad when he returned. Just wanted to get away from him.

As he came in he said he did not realize I was making a breakfast. He thought I was just making english muffins? I don't know if I buy that. There were cooking items spread out on the counter. But with his fog who knows what he sees in his parallel universe.

As kids said we were taking dog out he said: ok I'll come. I really did not want him to as I was still mad about breakfast. Wish I had just bowed out.

He was waiting for me outside. I think it was his way of apologizing. I should have walked with him, even if in silence. But instead I walked ahead. Not mature on my part & missed 180 opportunity.

Toward end of walk he mentioned something to one of the kids and I interjected. Should have just kept my mouth shut. We seemed to be working through it. He asked me to calm down. I did feel really worked up inside--need to recognize that and control it better-a 180 I need to do.

Then I brought up breakfast. He said I should have told him I was making it. I said I did but he said that I only did so as he was walking out the door. I insisted he must have seen the cooking items spread out on the counter. He says he didn't. I said "then you should get your eyes checked." Not my proudest moment. He was quiet. We went back and forth a little. Mostly calm & he told me it was no big deal. I thought: easy for him to say as he WAS NOT the one working to make a nice breakfast.

I shot a passive aggressive truth dart saying "yeah well if it had been x and y (his two new regressive MLC friends) you sure would have been there." He came home and went in his room. No shocker there.

BUT: after 20 mins. he came out and hung out with us for an hour! I made him a cup of tea and he made me and the kids a smoothie. As he made me the smoothie he joked "do you want gin or vodka in it?" I said "both!"

This is a 180 for both of us as usually we held onto things for too long and gave too much silent treatment. See where I need to work. But, it was HUGE that we moved past it so quickly. If he makes it out of MLC and this part stays, I welcome this new aspect!!!