Ripken - WW filed for divorce and already moved on

[Ripken8]

Guys, thanks for all the support and advice. While I do agree in general, I'm not sure all the advice fits my situation. Also, as everyone knows, what ever action I take or don't, I am the one who deals with the consequences.

That being said, I have no intention of lying to my sons. The haven't mentioned his name once to me or even said mommy had someone over. That's good enough for now. If they do ask, I won't lie, I'll be honest with them, without going into all the details.

Also I asked ww to hold of on further meetings with om and our sons until the meet with ic beginning of August. I want to see what's going on with them and what ic would recommend. I don't want to have them subjected to anything more that could hurt them.

Now if I take gb recommendation today, not only am I doing just that, but also doing the exact opposite of what I asked my ww to do.

This is about looking at progress. One week ago we ignored each other, avoided each other, had animosity and felt the other was constantly out to get us. Since then, we do communicate. It's still very much a work in progress, but it will prob have to be. The thing is she is trying and even agreed on some things - payments, getting boys in conseling, etc.

If I made a William Wallace charging on the battlefield stance now, she will get defensive and the door to communicate really may never open again. I'm sure you hear this a lot, but this is really who she is. She was already starting to get that way when we spoke yesterday and then she calmed down and apologized- different and a good different.

I am not naive nor will I be. But I also have to evaluate what's best for my situation and right now it's continuing to communicate on decisions with the boys with ww, be an awesome dad for them, talk with the ic and if they bring anything up to be, be honest about it.