Well, last night was very stressful for me. We were with his family and he was kinda ignoring me. I had made two unnecessary comments to him in front of his family and when I caught him alone I apologized to him and he smiled and said that he accepted.
He dropped my D and myself off at our house and I asked if he was coming over for the 4th July fireworks and he said he had plans. He looked at me and said don't work, it's not with a female and I asked then who with. He gave me a funny look and I said I am still your wife. So he told me it was with some female and her husband that they worked with. I told him that he can tell our D that he won't be here. And he did, and she broke down and started to cry. She said Daddy I love you, but you are breaking my heart. Well then that broke my heart. It's like his heart is like ice towards me and our D.
I am not sure how more of this I can handle before I say f*&%$ it and file the paperwork.
I talked to him later and asked what he was thinking and he said what do you mean and I asked if was thinking about coming back or a divorce. He replied but and I said I don't know what I want right now.
He did tell me since I don't trust him 100% that was an issue for him. Well, he cheated on me several times and what does he expect. I reminded him what the therapist said about when he moved back in that he did not do his part and without him doing him part, the trust would not come back.
He was the one that ran the marriage in the ditch, why is it my responsibility to pull it out by myself?
Hi Hopeful, looking through your post above, you are doing lots of things (I highlighted them) that are contrary to DB advice. Pursuit and pressure. Have you read DB and DR?? If not, it would be a good idea and may help your approach.
From what you post, your H isn't 'in' right now and I think you need to detach and live your own life until/unless that changes. Sorry you are finding things so touch and take care x
