Good. Don't make her use those "someone safe" she is talking to by not showing the least interest. You have to act like you are not her spouse right now. Nothing that smacks of restricting her freedom, checking up on her, and nothing that makes her lie to you. You know you won't get truthful answer, so don't press that sore.
Try to look at it as an outside observer. Carrying your phone around with you and acting like she does is very childish. It shows you someone who is not in a happy place and is desperate to not feel that. It can help, as it brings out sympathy rather than resentment, and it doesn't feel so much like a bitter rejection when you see it for the behavior it is. That isn't to say you get smug and judgemental, just that this is a lot about her bad emotional state than that you are somehow not good enough. It helps you to stop trying to show her you are good enough, when you know that this isn't really what it is about and therefore can't help your sitch.
Keep up the good work.
Ok I WAS doing good, until I saw her getting dressed in hot black lace lingerie to go meet her girlfriends for a drink. Now I am getting a little edgy.
Ladies...Give me a good reason a woman that never wears lingerie would put it on to go meet girlfriends for drinks??!!
Me: 39 W: 38 T-18yrs M-13yrs 2 Girls: 10 & 3 EA BD 5/24/15 Separate Bedrooms 6/12/15 PA BD 7/3/15 Separate Residence 8/8/15
