I've already referred to it a few times today myself. I spent the night at my friend's last night, and it's clear my W did not spend the night here last night, either. I know the OW has the day off, and it's a rainy day that they are likely spending together at her house, doing the things that, well, new lovers do. As I recall from the email exchange earlier this week about my W's irritation at "having" to go to a dinner hosted by the boys tonight, she was lamenting that she couldn't spend the whole day with her.
Of course, that's her fantasy life - all the great sex and just soaking up each other's company. This lasts how long again? A few months? Because if she'd spent this rainy day here with me, she'd be on the computer working the whole time. So would I. Had it been just a few months ago, we'd be moving toward our Friday night routine... getting close to the time when I'd open a bottle of wine and she'd start making pizza, and we'd enjoy a family (or a just the two of us) dinner on the porch enjoying the rain before coming inside to settle on the couch and watch something on TV.
The affair scenario sounds exciting, but it doesn't last. The routine has been ours for years, and I wonder when the first Friday comes that she'll miss it. I'm hoping maybe, even just a little bit, she'll miss it today.
Heading off for that dinner in just a few... although we've agreed to meet at a local pub instead of going to the boys' house. I am really hoping I say and do the right things, and leave her with just enough of a nostalgic twinge that it disrupts the rest of the night with the OW. This means: no fighting!!! I just have to be charming and self-assured.
I can do this...
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
