Thank you for your replies. It truly is nice to know there are caring people out there. So I've talked with my brother again. He talked to me about detachment, and I'm starting to see the truth in it. I've only known about this affair for a week so everything about me is very raw right now. I want so badly to make him see what this is doing to me, but my wise brother said that my husband already knows. True! He does. He also said to be happy and positive when I'm around him. Any tips on how to do that when that is absolutely the opposite of what I want to do?
On a side note...is there a way to search for a certain user on this site? My brother recommended a user named Puppy Love and how amazing and helpful they were.
