Sounds like he is up for it... then, I say... "I need to feel special to someone, like someone has my back."
He responds with... "Well, until that happens, we can have fun."
WTF.
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What if we try a long distance relationship? He seems open to it. I lay some ground rules and describe what I'm looking for... maybe not exclusive at first, but we could meet here and there when I go to Ohio to visit family. He could come here from time-to-time.
Ok - reality check here. This guy has NEVER given you ANY indication that this was anything more than a fling to him. You then try to shoehorn him into a relationship by faking casual ("describe what I'm looking for... maybe not exclusive at first") but what you really are looking for is a real, committed, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
Stop going to the hardware store to buy oranges! He doesn't offer what you are looking for, and no amount of wishing, hoping, or twisting yourself into a pretzel is going to change that. (And sure, he's confused - you just told him it didn't have to be an exclusive relationship - which he took to mean "fun, no strings" then you snapped on him.)
Trust me - a guy who WANTS to be in a relationship with you, will not require you to coax him into it. You need to be looking elsewhere.
The boyfriend I am with now has made the effort to be with me from day one. He calls frequently and is completely transparent about his day to day activities. He is empathetic and always offers a shoulder to lean on when I have troubles. He's kind to my mom and my kids. No coaxing required, no half measures.
Go out and look for that. You should not be SETTLING anymore! Go find what you deserve!
