Ripken - WW filed for divorce and already moved on

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Updated with ww when I went to pick up the boys. Told her why I was upset she still had om meet them. 2 reasons: felt it could hurt the boys and why take that chance before counseling and also felt she never took into account what I said when it comes to the two of them. We are going to make decisions on the two of them together and they'll be times where we disagree, but if there's no compromise or give and take, how can we make decisions together,

Her first reaction was anger and felt I was calling her a bad mom and went off saying she always has sacrificed and puts them first. I had to talk over her, not yelling, to telling her was being emotional, not listening to me and it wasn't productive. I told her she is the best mom I know and I wouldn't choose another mom for my two children. My issue is on how we communicate and I want that to improve. She agreed.

She then said she felt my problem with it was because of my personal feelings. I was honest, looked her in the eyes and told her that wasn't the case. When I look at her now I see someone I am not in love with and don't want to be with. I told her I'm all but moved on from her and the anger or hurt comes from the lying she did to my face and the disrespect. Pain I would feel toward any relationship I would have with someone, not because I want my wife back.

She stared in my eyes for a while, questioning it and then she realized I was telling the truth and I think it caught her a little by surprise.

I feel good about the interaction and told her my goal is for us to improve on communicating so we can me a little better each day as we work through each other's hurt. Maybe we can see what the other says and does at face value without automatically adding our own hurt to it.

When leaving we discussed the possibility of the two of us spending time together with both boys August 16 for our oldest birthday, since he'd really want that. We are both open to it. Hopefully time helps.