Working on it, but affair hasn't ended yet...

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T - just offering my support for you. Cali (and everyone) is giving you great advice as he has given me.

I see very many similarities in our situations. It is great that you found this forum early - start applying these DB principles now.

My W is also in an A with a coworker and I spent the first 6 months floundering in a devastated way - made every mistake - health was failing, couldn't function. Found DB and poorly executed and slowly implemented these principles. I believe that if I truly took all of the advice from the books and fine people here quickly, my situation may be better - who knows. But I do know that I am better for it (DBing, not the whole sitch) - I am stronger because of it. You will be too.

I'll be back, but wanted to give you my support.

Have a great holiday weekend - it is possible.