Hey Luke. You haven't been heard in your marriage for a long time. I get it..I've been there. Because of that, you are doing everything you can to make sure she hears you. You are terrified of going back to that marriage.
I think you know me well enough by now to know that I try to be fair. I know first hand how much we endure. But I have also seen several mlc's up close and I would not want to be them ever.
Looking at it from her perspective amidst crazytown, she is starting to come to terms with what she's done. She is trying to figure herself out. She is trying to see if the marriage can be saved. She is trying to understand all the changes you have made. Throw in a job loss and man, it's even crazier up in there.
So, as I said, I get your fear. I get your wanting to show her your changes are real. I get that you want to see her all in. But because of all that up there ^^^^, it's going to take time, my friend. It just is.
Aj is right, if you say it, you have to do it..because that's how you built trust and because that's the right thing to do.
Luke, I know you want this to hurry up already. The thing is that it cant work that way. She isn't where you are in the process. She just isn't. What you need to decide is whether you can hang in to see where this goes. If you can, then you have to be patient. She is still struggling. She doesn't have the tools you do.
You are watching way too closely...every word, action, facial expression. That just gets you crazy. Back on the path, sweetie. DB101. GAL, no cheeseless tunnels, etc.
