It's Been Two Months Today

[asitis]

On the reading skype messages: remember, that things come back to W. Really try not to cast blame and make them out to be the problem (or even struggling with their own issues). I've done that, and it only makes them see you as not getting it and the problem. So, make very sure that you only vent to those you can absolutely trust and via a media that she can't ever see.

It may actually be a good sign that she is snooping though.

Don't bring up OW, even indirectly. Just don't.

Finally, you are getting mixed messages. I'm sure she isn't done, but you need to focus on the I need space, don't pursue me, respect my wishes messages, and not the I still care, I don't feel bad and don't want to hurt you, etc. messages. The woman wants space. You need space to detach. Go with those. Don't be unfriendly, but no expectations, detachment, no R or OW talk, and GAL along with friendly interest, listening, and validation are your path forward through this painful haze.