The Bird, the Cage, and the open door.

[AJM]

I understand there will be up and down days .. today is a down ... So we will see what tomorrow brings

Do you? I mean, on one level you do. On another I'm not as sure. But this line above reminds me about perspective. i.e. the bigger picture. The overall and not the today or tomorrow.

Something to think about. As if you didn't have enough, right?

Something I see in your posts, neither good nor bad really. You seem more sure of yourself and what you want. And what you're willing to do to get them. I take that back - that's a good thing when applied appropriately. But it is also likely something she has never had to deal with for a very long time, no? I suspect there are some "old" world things that have to be overcome. Those things take time and patience to "stick" if you know what I mean. For example, you clearly state what you're willing to do and follow that up with action. Be careful with what you say as you'll have to follow that up by the way. But those things are important to you and therefore important to the relationship. Don't get drunk with the power of the new you, but rather judiciously express your needs, wants, desires etc.

I say that because it would be easy to overdo it and become a tyrant of sorts. If you stick to what is important to you, Cali 2.0, I think you'll find that things will work better for all concerned. I also think she'll challenge those things. She did in the past and it's not likely she will change that overnight. She will make changes as will you though. That's how it works.

Glad you were honest with her even with things you likely knew she didn't want to hear. That's kind of new for you two, right?

Given time, she'll adjust to the consistency of your expressions of needs and wants, just as you'll do for her.

Be patient and see the bigger picture vs. the day to day, amigo.

Peace,
AJ