Yeah Fogg... with the exception of some unfortunate arguments, I'm generally acting "as if," but now that she knows I'm praying for her and have a bunch of other people doing the same, she suspects ulterior motives. This is also giving ammunition to her and the OW, as if I'm the crazy one, not them. My prayers are actually nonspecific, but they don't know that and suspect otherwise.
You're right... it's SO hard to act like I'm moving on and it's no big deal. In a way, that feels like I'm agreeing with what she's doing, and acknowledging that the worst thing to ever happen in my life is actually "no big deal."
I want to show her so clearly how wrong this is, and argue tooth and nail.
But we all know the counter-intuitive actions are the ones that work. Act as if, eliminate negativity, make sure every encounter with her feels positive, and let her do her thing.
Or better yet, let OW do HER thing. And self-destruct.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
