ok I read sandi's rules. I have been very bad at pursuing and chasing. I have a difficult time as we live together and the kids. So i am thinking one goal could be that I will not speak of "US" or the Relationship for one week and then build on it I need obtainable for positive reinforcement! I have also been very emotionally abusive and unsupportive! I am not sure how to be supportive and not emotionally mean to him without it seeming like I am pursuing. As for going dark I find that a little hard living together. Especially since it is almost like we are together without affection but he is also with OW. He only spends friday and Saturday with her from around 9pm until 3AM about. They text all day but that is about it for their relationship. he is not secretive with me about it for the most part. so i need to stop asking about that also. as for GAL we barley make ends meet with his going out every weekend racing and the kids activities. I am also one of those crazy moms who feels I should be with the kids as much as i can especially his kids as we only have the 50% of the time. So should I just start doing things with the kids? Park? bike rides? ect. He always comes home. we share the same room, kid responsibilities and i take care of bills. really the only things that are different are the affection (no kissing,recently (the last two weeks) no SL, and no ILY) otherwise if you came to our house it looks like normal. we will still sit on the couch together and i lean on him or we will spend a day just laying in bed. he hugs me several times a day. but he will state he doesnt want to be with me. its so confusing
