Hi all. EXW phoned yesterday and sort of lost it down the phone. I am having the family home valued and EXW was not impressed. She said she will never agree to sell as kids need their home and they are happy there. I explained I was only getting a valuatation and as she owns thalf the property it's impossible for me to sell the house without her signing.
She calmed down and said she was having a lot of issues at the moment as her body was giving her issues. I asked if she had booked doctors and she said she changed her mind as she was too busy. She then started crying and said she was depressed and missing her family and home. I validated and she said she felt she was all alone and she had to leave last year because the situation got too bad. Again I validated and ask her if she would go to the doctor on Monday as a favour to me. She responded that she would if I would get my kid eg checked as its iver due We agreed on this and EXW stopped crying and said she didn't know what to do and hoped doctor could help her sort her life
We finished call and about two hours later I got a call from SIL to thank me for getting EXW to go to doctor SIL said EXW seemed very down and she was worried about her.
Today EXW called and seemed much happier We chatted for a while and I mentioned if she felt depressed she needed to speak to a proffersional. EXW picked up I was talking about suicide and said she wasn't thinking that way anymore and felt a little better. I just offered to be a the end of the phone if she ever felt that way again EXW did say she wants to go to L/C again but we will See
D11 was with EXW yesterday in my garage and EXW just started crying saying her life is a complete mess D11 gave her a hug which is like getting s hug from an angel
I was with L/C this evening and she thinks I'm doing well. I'm keeping my head clear of EXW and OM much more than before. I think I'm starting to understand that EXW has lots of issues and not just her R with OM
I'm feeling ok at the moment. I went to work on the bike today. Earphones blaring 70"s and 80"s hits and me spending a little bit too much time on the back wheel All on closed roads of course.
I see a lot of heartache on this board and so many people who are prepared to change for the better for their R. L/ C told me to improve myself and let EXW to her own devices. Lives life Become the best RD I can and detach while being there for EXW until she's sorts out her own life One way or the other Sound familer ?
