In this very critical stage, is it okay to start asking questions if he is having/had an A or not, details, etc? I want to know why the turn around. Why suddenly he wants to work on the M. Is it too early?
Thank you in advance!
From what I have learned/read ... Nope .. don't ask, and at this point he should not tell.
I read a column on a couple who attended a marriage retreat, the man confessed to an A he had 20 years ago ... just to get it off his chest, all this did was relieve him of the guilt but it devestated his unknowing wife, where is the benefit in this, 20 years ago had she know maybe she makes an honest assesment and figures out what she might have done .. but now .. nothing but pain.
I would guess, you are here, A or no A you want to save your M ... so why go looking for a rattlesnake in the barn? What good will it do other than bring pain.... use that energy and focus on how you can improve your R and M.
