Ripken, I feel your pain... BD here on May 2, and exactly two months later, I'm supposed to accept that I'm just her ex and the OW is her real partner now. Deal with the loss, move on, it's no big deal.

I also want some kind of control over this process. But as I'm looking back on the past eight weeks, I see that I've fared better - and she has been more conflicted and/or amicable - the more I have just allowed things to unfold.

It's so hard, I get it. But we have to trust the process.

Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19