Yes, fear. Fear of abandonment, fear of povery, see what I mean? It is so easy to spin out of control. But fear is just an emotion.... it can pass over us and through us.
As we are all LBS, I wonder if all of us go through this to some degree? I am guessing so as we are members of this board and are ighting for our marriages and/or improved versions of ourselves.
Caliguy did your wife ever express that she had fear about her choices, or any insecurities about your potential D?