WW/WAW Looking for advice from the pros (Sandi)

[Vanilla]

Just a little kindness here, I think there is a lot of hurt all around.

I have a female friend whose husband cheated on her three days before the wedding 35 years ago. She is still upset about it sometimes. Five years within the time frame isn't long at all.

I believe the reason my friend is still unhappy is because she feels that her H didn't fully apologise and atone for the behaviour. His attitude is "I married you, didn't I". As far as everyone knows it never happened again but this lady hasn't forgiven although she let go of the resentment. It isn't whether Prowl considers he atoned but whether WW believes he did and accepts that matter is closed.

It is as it is.

Everyone is hurting, WW may also be using this as an excuse for her waywardness but it can damage for a long time.

I do still believe that WW is being wayward today and nothing excuses that behaviour by WW. Even though WW may be upset and in pain, none of us can mind read, that A behaviour by Prowl could be a part of the issue for WW.

Prowl, if you take the higher ground on this and realise that WW may have some validity but that does not excuse her behaviour at all then you will not go far wrong.

You may wish to consider reading Mozza's thread too as that may be informative. That does not mean that I think you should be any less strong about WW and her behaviour, nor should she pull less than her Fin weight in this sitch.

I would like to offer you all the strength and support I can projected across the miles and peace in your heart.

V