Serve the servants: Wayward Wife & LRT (7)

[Defacto]

STBX texted me this morning and said that she would like to talk to me about something D4 said last night before bed. I texted her back and said I would call in a bit. When I called, STBX told me that she was talking with D4 last night about being able to confide in her for anything. D4 told her that she has secrets with daddy. STBX was very concerned with this and wanted to talk to me about it. I remained calm and supportive. I recounted a couple of conversations that D4 and I have had in the past few days that could apply to the secrets she was referring to. I then asked to speak with D4 on speakerphone. I told her that she could share any secret with STBX. D4 agreed.

I told STBX that she was right for being concerned and wanting to talk with me about it. I also thanked her for being available for D4 to confide in. We then talked about a few parenting things and said goodbye.

I am pleased with how I handled this call. Of course I am insulted that STBX would even think of me that way. But I can understand a mother's concern and she would be wrong not to follow up. I was calm, soft spoken, and validated STBX's concern. I think this is a big 180 because the old Defacto would have become very agitated and defensive at the mere implication of such a thing. However, I was able to see STBX's perspective and casually address her concerns.