Huge Backslide After Affair Recovery

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Sorry you are here, but this place is full of great people, the more you read the better acquainted you will become.

my h happened to go onto my computer (which was a first for him) and he saw a message between my sister & I. In it I made fun of him related to something that he had said to the OW (trying to make myself feel better b/c I was still feeling bad about this thing I had read). I also mentioned to her a fear that I had had about my h back when things were not good between us

What did the message say? so we get a better understanding of why he says he is angry

Yes! I have disguised the book w/ a cover from another book & keep it put away. I have also cleared this site from my history & intend to only visit on my private web browser from here on out.

Sorry you are here, but this place is full of great people, the more you read the better acquainted you will become.

my h happened to go onto my computer (which was a first for him) and he saw a message between my sister & I. In it I made fun of him related to something that he had said to the OW (trying to make myself feel better b/c I was still feeling bad about this thing I had read). I also mentioned to her a fear that I had had about my h back when things were not good between us

What did the message say? so we get a better understanding of why he says he is angry

I cannot really say the specifics... but it was very hurtful. And of course in his mind, he made it out to be bigger than it really was (this fearful thought of mine).

Hope - I'm sorry you are here, but you are among friends.

My question to you - you said your H decided that you guys were done with counseling. Have you ACTUALLY forgiven him?

I was working to forgive him I I think I had made some good progress. However, it did consume me at some moments and this is when I would not act in the healthy ways we had learned to deal with it in counseling. I felt like we could have used more counseling but there was monetary concerns so I let him make that decision to stop.