After your A was discovered, what did the C recommend? Did the two of you actually follow through with therapy or did you just kind of let it go?
We went to C for a year. We worked on having more open communication and being transparent. No locks on phones or computers. To be honest a lot of the therapy was more to help our relationship and wasn't centered so much on helping her work through my betrayal. And to be honest after the second year I became frustrated with her inability to "forgive and forget". I see that was very selfish and uncaring of me now. I've spent the last two days reading both DB and DR and there is so much more I could have done.
To be honest I've learned just how many things I was doing wrong. I wish we could R so that I could show her just how much I've learned and how things could be better and different. I hope I don't have to take those lessons to a different relationship.
Last edited by Prowl; 07/02/1505:03 AM.
BD Oct 2014 S Dec 2014 D filed Feb 20, 2015 D on hold as money ran out for attorneys and the marital home's future is up in the air
