Today was a rough one. Talked with ww on the way home about the boys and getting counseling. Also updated her on some behavior issues (anger, lying) I was seeing so we can be consistent. Then she dropped another bomb on me. Said that in a week she'd be taking in a dog and unsure how long she would be watching it, but wanted me to know that the boys would be around it and allergies, etc. asked who she was watching it for. The om!
Which then led me to ask if she was planning to introduce om to our sons since he'll prob want to come by to "see his dog". She said she had been thinking about it and since he's a part of her life and she's been in a "relationship for a while" she wants them to know him.
I did not flip out or yell, I remained calm. I told her were not even divorced yet, the kids haven't had counseling or been able to process anything. She told me she wanted a divorce 2 months ago, I moved out 1 month ago, we told the kids about the divorce 2 weeks ago and now she wants to introduce them to her boyfriend?! Wtf!
I told her I understand she's Ina good place and been there awhile, but not everyone's there yet. She's so far ahead of everyone else. Take me out of the picture, we don't even know where the boys are and how they're handling things yet. We haven't even sold the house.
She is just wanting to move so fast. She said it's uncomfortable to talk about with me, I agreed and said the only reason why I was is because it involves the boys.
I have no control whether or when she introduces him, but told her my take and let her know when she wanted to talk about it again, I would listen, be calm and objective. She said she's not trying to hurt me, but wants to be open and knows she will want him to meet the boys, sooner rather than later.
This is all happening so fast for me.
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M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
