Focusing on your wife, your grief, your loss, is not helping.
First, you need to realize, this may not be all about you. It may be about her own state of mind.
Second, you need to get a life of your own that positive, strong and worth living. She will not be attracted to you if you are pathetic, crying and miserable.
Third. Go talk to a lawyer IMMEDIATELY. Protect your rights. It doesn't look like you have a lot of property in common, but I think you need to get a consultation. If she wants a divorce, don't resist. Instead, know what you want and have your lawyer protect you. This will show some strength.
