Completely agree re solicitor doing the talking. Quite difficult with W as S has no speech and therefore I have to communicate with her to know how his weeks been etc. For that reason I have tried my best to be as civil as possible in order to not make things harder than they need to be.
Re friends it is her that has always initiated the trying to be friends and I used to get caught in the push/pull dynamic. I have withdrawn completely from this dynamic but will remain polite and civil for the sake of S.
It is frustrating because I feel she used S disability to keep her secret with OM. He would have told me for sure if he could. Sandi2 warned me in the early days of what she could be capable of......so I have been preparing for OM revelation for a long time. When it came the preparation paid off.
I am pretty sure OM is going thru MLC as well! Just bought a new sports car, presumably with my child support money!
I am still doing a good job of keeping the business side (finances) and emotional side separate in the D.
FY - thank you. It is so good to see you are doing so well and am happy for you. It seems like a lifetime since we were first on newcomers on what was then a very similar sitch. Been a long ride so far and just goes to show how 2 similar sitchs can turn out so different.
You have been a great example of patience and I know it has been a tough ride for you.
But you can definately get yourself over here for the lesson! I'll pay the air fair
I won't be stranger but needed time out to get my life plan together (without W) and was making huge strides getting some financial security back and enjoying S. The D is sad because I know that with the new me we would have had a much better M . But it is time to move on.
I hold my head high in that no matter what she has thrown at me so far (and there has been a lot which I haven't shared here) I have remained strong, resilient, learned from my mistakes and to still apply DB. I am the lighthouse and it seems like it irritates W that she cannot draw a reaction, that no matter what she does I grow stronger and yet she still seems stuck with resentment and anger.
For that I will always be extremely grateful for DB and the people here, without which I would have definitely sunk into a much darker place.
