^^^^^^^^^^^^^Holla at kml with the spot on answer.
Ha,
I'm so sorry you find yourself here. There are so many fabulous people here offering wisdom, support, advice, etc.
Yes, I have heard about people wanting to date other people while married and made that announcement at BD. I don't say this to be harsh, but your boundary will be unenforceable. Your h isn't going to call you up and say, "FYI, I just hooked up with Emily and wanted you to know." Nope. Not happening.
I know it is such a challenging position, however, you really must focus on yourself. Your h is nowhere done, so don't expend a great deal of energy on reconnection at this point or wonder if it's hard for him to come back. He is gone. He is nowhere near any self reflection. Let him be. Focus on your financial safety and building the life you want.
It truly gets better. Hang in there:)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
