Just caught u p.. I too was wincing at you allowing the cake eat fest and hopefully you do see the trend here, your W needs to make you and you rM #1 priority .... the fact she feels comfy and can drop her job ... my ears perked up a bit .. look at this as more time she can hang with OM while you are at work because at this point ... you have no clue if the A is over or not, your W has not been fully transparent with you.
Bottom line, she has to respect you and your boundaries .. more importantly you need to hold those boundaries and not waiver. I can understand how the AA stuff is personal ... but the more you dig the deeper she is going to hide her secrets, she is better at hiding things than you are giving her credit for.
