My W basically said what your friend just did. It is hard to hear, as you didn't intend that. It is not something you can do much about right now, as your W (as mine isn't either) isn't open to having you make up for that by showing you the Heavy 2.0 full of love, respect, and nurture. Very frustrating. I tried for a long time & it didn't go over well.

Keep doing what you are doing. Hopefully we will both get the chance to show our Ws what they deserved and we really intended to show them all along sometime in the not too distant future.

If nothing else, we are both better at having a healthy R in the future no matter who it is with. It would just be a shame if our Ws aren't the beneficiary of that hard lesson we learned and the pain it caused them.

Stay strong.

Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15