Just caught up on your thread, sometimes reading all the sitches here I get caught up in a few things from my own .... like pulling the scab off a wound that is almost healed. I forget how your BD was just 2 months ago .... I know it stinks ... but you are doing very well, the backslide you had .. well .. just a backslide .. dust yourself off ... 'Faghettaboutit' and move on.
A couple things.... the moving bit ... I typically always follow Wonka around like a love struck puppy and agree .. in this case I don't. I feel its similar to the D, I was not about to pretend to rise above it, as you put it .. 'dig my own grave' and pack up all our memories for her to move on ... and that was BEFORE I even knew OM existed ( Still trying to figure out how blind I really was) I would not help her move, her choice not mine ... very similar to the D ... if they want it let them deal with the reality of it. Not saying Wonka is wrong .. heck .. I know she isn't but I also know me moving her would be a nightmare and not a 'pleasant memory'
As far as OW .... look at this from a different perspective. Your W is all sorts of confused, and yes in her mind your M is already over and she is in a R with OW, so the basic approach is them against you .... good thing for you, and maybe you did not see this in that response. OW is threatened by you. Lets look at this like a house, YOUR M was built as you described on things of substance, hence a solid foundation. The A in question .. yours, mine, anyone else's.... was built on rubble, lies, deciet shallowness. When the high waters and winds hit .. like any relationship and trust me they will hit ... which house stands a chance. Ironically I just read Matthew 7:24-27 last night ... I am not one to site scripture ... but kinda had to with your sitch, just replace the term house with marriage. Don't worry about OW and her manipulations, in time its that very thing that will destroy the A, your W just needs that fog to lift a tiny bit to see it. Let God handle her and the OW for a bit while you continue to Detach, GAL, 180 .. work on you ... use this time as it is truly a gift, I know you might think I am nuts for saying that as I wanted to flick people who would tell me the same, looking back I wished I had done more of the 'me' work.
