Validations are words and yet we rely heavily one those. They become a sort of action, right? At times, when I have genuinely validated H, I have seen the "hypnotic" effect these validation have. Yet they are words.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced