My biggest issue right now is my house. In the next month or so I will have to make a decision to let my house go into forclosure which will force my family out and will definately push the divorce forward as there will be nothing left to fight over. Or file a CH 13, that I will have to pay for, that will keep my family in our home but I will be paying for us to get caught up but will delay the divorce as we will be trying to save the house.

Make the decision based on Fin considerations, otherwise emotion is running your life. Whatever decision you make you will need to live with so a cool head and good advice.

I have a difficult time paying for my wife to remain comfortable in our home an carry on with her A from inside the walls that I built. And all the while paying for it.

it's time for WW to step up to the plate and be involved in this. Are you able to look after your children and move back to the house.

So as everyone can see time plays a major role in this. I almost want to tell her that if she is unwilling to R then I refuse to file the CH 13. Problem is I don't think she has any problems about letting everything go so she can be happy.

These statements concern me greatly. The reason that should occur to you is that your behaviour would be controlling. Yes, I know this hasn't been said but it is in your thoughts. It would be useful for you to make a definitive contrast list of your choices.

I know this isn't easy and none of the choices are ideal but look after you and be stable for your children

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW