Hurt06

Unfortunately I am not living in the house and haven't been since January. She convinced me a seperation was the only way to save the marriage and then filed for a protective order once I started finding clues to her A. I didn't figure out the "who" until just recently but it's a huge coincidence that his marriage is now at risk at the same time as mine...

I spent all day reading DR and I agree that maybe calling the OM wife isn't the best idea. MWD says to ride it out and that A usually last around 6 months. To be completely honest I was involved in an EA 5 years ago and came clean with my W about it and wanted to fix what was wrong in our marriage. I remember the rush and being in the fog. I even remember thinking I wanted to end my marriage at that time. It lasted about 4 months until we both came to our senses and ended things. My W is on dating sites, apps, etc... So I don't think she is just interested in one OM. I think it's a possible MLC and she's enjoying all the attention she is getting from losing weight and her new found attention she gets from other men.

She's in the stage of only remembering the bad times. How horrible our marriage was and how unhappy she felt. All of that explained in DR. I've been crying and badgering for months. I really need to continue my 180 I just started 3 days ago and see what happens. I haven't called her at all. She called me at 3 AM last night to discuss a situation with our son. And then twice today.

I got to the end of DR and read some of the success stories. They made me bawl like a baby. I can't tell everyone how badly I want my sitch to have a happy ending. I've worked to hard and sacrificed to much to just let my marriage end like this. I did take it for granted but I realize now just how much I stand to lose.


BD Oct 2014
S Dec 2014
D filed Feb 20, 2015
D on hold as money ran out for attorneys and the marital home's future is up in the air

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