Wow, that is tough. The channel changing is so passive agressive. He is trying to bait you. I think the best thing to do is keep it easy breezy and don't give him a reaction. Either something like, "oh,thanks! I was dying to watch this but I was too lazy to change the channel." Or what about just getting up and smiling and inviting the kids to have some ice cream with you, or something? Or go out yourself -- with a smile as if that had been your plan all along.
It will frustrate and confuse him when he gets the opposite reaction he's expecting...and make you feel empowered.
Hang in there
The channel changing actually ended up being fine. He turned on the soccer game and it was a good game. I think it annoyed him that I was interested in it, he watched from the dining room because he doesn't want to be in the same room as me, and when D and I had a question about the clock he ignored me but answered her. What a baby. I kept it easy breezy. It actually wasn't so hard because D12 has been upset about the fact everyone is always separate now, so I kept telling myself I am doing it for her.
I was invited to go to an arts event with my aunt and some of her friends later this week. I'm looking forward to it. Live music, open bar, girls' night out. I'm starting to feel optimistic. Now I just need to find a job.
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