WW/WAW Looking for advice from the pros (Sandi)

[Prowl]

I've been trying to find something, ANYTHING, to save my marriage. I didn't do anything the other forums recommended because 1. I didn't have anything to go off of before

2. Nothing before felt right until I came across another forum. I have a friend in another state who did expose his Ws affair and it ended up working in his favor.

I'm really not here to say what is better or not. I have purchased both DB and DR and am already half way through DR. I've been reading all day and I am on the last resort pages as I type this.

I have pulled back completely and have done a total 180 from where I was even a week ago. Between the advice here an my own W telling me to back off I finall went out and GAL. I worked out this week and I haven't contacted her at all. She's called me the last three days and we've actually had normal conversations. She still alludes to the divorce procedding and talking to me as a "co-parent". But she has taken notice. We haven't had a conversation in 4 months were I wasn't asking her to R or to tell me how she's feeling. I've been the one to say "goodbye" at the end of conversations.

I just need some assurances from the people here that these little acts are something. I read to appreciate the little things and her noticing our conversations are normal is a small victory. I just get nervous when she keeps talking about a future without "us" and talks to me like a "co-parent".