The Bird, the Cage, and the open door.

[mleigh4]

Hmmmm ok. Something your W said struck a chord with me. She said she doesn't feel comfortable enough during sex to do some things and doesn't know why? Something close to that? Anyway, I can totally relate to that. It is something I used to tell my H, when I was really withdrawn and not feeling connected with him. It's all about emotion and connection for me, might be the same for her. She feels safe with you, but is still very deep in the struggle with the emotional part.

Please don't take it personal, as you guys get closer, I bet that will change.

One more thing, H is not the best lover I ever had. However, the emotional connection with him always blew away the physical part of the act with anyone else.( Didn't your W tell you the same?) Don't get hung up on what she said, she was looking for justification for her actions. Again, my H is no Casanova, but here I am, loyal and faithful for 15 years now, 2 after BD. I don't believe an A has a anything to do with performance.