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When you say "I am doing much better at detaching", what EXACTLY does that mean?

In my opinion, you shouldn't be acting cold or curt - you should be exhibiting PMA. Detaching is about not letting her moods, actions, feelings, etc affect how you act. it isn't about excluding her or ignoring her.

If you stop pursuing her, it's not unreasonable to think she is going to react by further distancing herself in hopes that you will resume pursuit. I wouldn't pay too much attention.

Hope your coach gives you some great insight and a solid plan!

Matt you are right on point. My coach zeroed in on the fact that this is supposed to be loving detachment. Not a lack of interaction. I was trying to stay away as much as possible and give her space. He encouraged curiosity about her life but not interrogation. I get it. That's what I'd rather be doing anyway. She's my best friend. It really hurts not to have her there to interact with lately. I am changing course immediately.

He also suggested that her plans may on some level be testing me to see if I am really going to refrain from pursuing her and snooping.