distrust of W and her potentially glomming on to another broken soul to repair who strokes her ego. This seems to be a problem that I'VE had. Even if OM1 were a thing of the past, how would I ever get past it and not suspect that every male lost soul that she wants to fix is not the next predator?
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Your wife needs to arrive at a point that she is remorseful for what she has done and would do anything to prove that to you, and to show that she is capable of trustworthy behavior. Seems she is not at this point yet.
For me its full transparency, full disclosure, and no more secret lives, no more Married-Sinlge type things. That's the start point, and now has been a slow progress of building trust which will take years, but everything is out in the open .. no more elephants .. that's where you would have to be but at this point your W is still in the A lala-land fog ... honestly I think its going to take her feeling she will lose you to re-think this wonderful situation where she feels everyone's needs are being met and you all should be happy.
