She asks if I am ok, rather than lie and say fine (Old Cali) I let her know I am frustrated we have not done our 'homework' from Retrouvaille, she quickly snaps awake and offers to do it right there and now...
Ok, I'm gonna be honest here Cali. I'm all about being true to ourselves and speaking our mind with our spouse, especially once we've made it to the point you're at now. But do you see how the timing in this may have been an issue... telling her when she's asleep?
Patience my friend. You will get there!
No problem, I know you'll do better next time. BTW, Michele talks about timing when bringing up these BIG issues in SSM!
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During her A, when she would hit Monster, she would tell me some pretty cruel things. Sure I had the spew jacket but those certain things stuck and I am really struggling with them. Maybe getting them out here ... in some way releases a few. So OM owned a gym, evidently he was Mr Fun, fit and in shape, according to W in Monster mode was very good in bed and informed me I was horrible, also let me know he was very endowed.
Yet she wants back with you, and is making the effort to earn your trust and meet your needs.
The brain is the largest sex organ, (don't ask me how I know this ) and will trump technique or "endowment" every time. Seriously Cali, look at the man you have become... I'm pretty sure the finest women (like the one's here) would much rather share a bed with you, than cheater gym man any day of their life.
You KNOW you are the catch here, right? Carry On.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
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