I'm with Cadet and Heavy. ADs helped me tremendously in getting out of that post BD blues.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
There is a section titled Another Divorce Busted that has success stories. Also, one of our members, Mozza, has put together a list of links to various members' threads who saved their M through DB methods. I will copy and paste it below.
If it is any comfort, I was a wayward wife and had my hand on the door knob ready to leave my H for another man. I give this board credit for giving me the information I needed and the support and encouragement to try again. That was eight years ago. I stick around in hopes I can pay it forward. Not many WW's on the board, so I try to give you guys a glance into the mindset of a WW/WAW.
BTW, you said you had confirmation she has not cheated. How was it confirmed?
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SUCCESS STORIES I update this list every time I start a new thread. Please make suggestions, especially with links to threads. I wish we had room in our profile to tell our story so that the vets and other successes could give us a quick summary.
Piecing as of 2014-2015 (newly added)Jefe (M) T0324 (W) H leaves in Febr 2014, filed for D, had OW, piecing fails in Aug 2014, piecing again in Mar 2015 Crimson (W) Heart14 (W) Signs 2014-02, DB 2014-07, Piecing since 2014-07 Nitty - BD in December 2013, piecing as of September 2014
Not in denial , I know I'm not myself , but I still eat enough , go to work , see some friends , family . I'm more in shock on how she just gave up , how can one say she's my soulmate just over a month ago and for seven years and just in a matter of weeks give up
Me:35 W:30 7 years together 11 months married No children W Left me-moved to her moms: June 2015 W filed for D: July 2015
Defacto after your wife filed, you still feel there is hope . I feel like once mine files it's over
Aj - There is always hope.
If I asked you a year ago today if you thought you would be facing a divorce, you may have thought I was crazy. What if I said that in 5 years, your marriage would be as strong as ever. Sounds crazy, huh?
There's lots of cases of divorced people remarrying! But for it to be successful, you can't restart the SAME marriage
Defacto after your wife filed, you still feel there is hope . I feel like once mine files it's over
AJ, Sure, once they file, I'm sure the odds of reconciliation are diminished. However, there is always hope, even after the D is final. There are numerous testimonies on here of couples who have reconciled in the eleventh hour or even after the D. I find my hope in knowing that I am doing everything I can to heal and discover myself. If W wants to join me and we can work through our stuff, great! If not, I know that I have put in the work for myself and I will be happy.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
