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[NDY]

Hi difRent

I know I don't post on your threads but this resonated with me....

Here's the kicker though: they no longer consider their relationship an affair - now THEIRS is the real relationship, and I'm just the stupid ex who still wears her ring and won't get it through her head that we're done. (Although, despite what I confess on this board, I actually have been clear that I don't want her back - not "this" her, anyway, and in her presence, I've practiced friendly-neighbor detachment for a week with great precision.)

My WW also sees our R as dead and the R with the OM is the real deal. I've had more than a few vets posting on my thread about this. Yea, right now your W believes that to be true and the level of selfishness is unabated but what can you do? You can stick with the plan like I am or you can abandon all and move on. The fact that you are still here and still posting shows to me you still care. So if you stick to the plan you become a better person and you may, just may rebuild a better R with your W. Win win either way. Stay the course and don't pay too much attention to the email.

I stopped snooping a long time ago and trust me, with my skills I could find out A LOT. It didn't help. Made it worse so best leave that alone.

And one poster GB said to me once. Forget OM. He's not a part of your family. Good advice.