I think it's time to be your true authentic self and open up on how this affects you emotionally. Just simply state that you feel that XOM is the higher priority over you and that makes you feel unwelcome as a husband. That is not good.
Put it on the table and state your needs as a H. You might want to visit CaliGuy's thread over in MLC for he really articulated his needs to his MLCer W. Thought that was a really well reasoned approach.
