I have some questions...my atty receives so many of my texts begging her to call me, voicemails telling her to call me and ....nothing. FRUSTRATING!! Is this common?
Anyway, Finally have an appt today with her. I gotta spew this stuff cuz I don't know what I should do.
On Friday, my H was going to take 2 of the boys to a baseball game (with OW & one of her children of course). My other 2 boys declined. He said he'd pick them up at 4:30p then later received a text that he's picking them up at 1:30p.& taking them swimming first. I never prohibited nor did I raise a fuss that he can see our children besides the visitations.
On Saturday, my son calls me and says that H called to see if they want to go to the movies. (***It's my weekend & he never called or text me***). DS said no cuz we're doing something with mom. So H starts to question of where are we going? etc..
I was upset. So I text him the following:
Me: "FYI. This is my wknd and why are you trying to call the house and take the boys out? Call or text me first if you want the boys on my days."
H: Calm Down!!! I'm just trying to spend as much time with my sons as possible. They said you were taking them out early (never said that) so I thought I would try to see them later in the day this weekend since you refused (I didn't refuse instead I switched to the following wknd) to switch days with me as requested due to me being out of town next week. Technically it would be my weekend and I would have every right to take them to Florida with me. (They all declined and refuse to go to Florida with him and OW) I do want joint custody. We already share them 50/50 anyway. They are my sons as much as they are yours and you get them everyday and every night. Again..I'm just trying to see my sons as much as possible. You should be happy they have a father that wants to see them and is trying to spend quality time with his sons."
I didn't respond. UGH!! It seems like my words got twisted.All I was trying to get at was that I would appreciate a request instead of a demand of when to see his children.
Beside, the visitations are not only with him. They always have her. I get it. He wants her in his life. I'm passed that now. Geez! But can't he and I talk separately?
I also received a letter from my bank that he wants all the bank stmts delivered to his address (OW house). Now she'll know all my business.
Okay - advice.
Did I say this wrong? did I do this wrong? I just want him to communicate with me instead of using the boys as messengers or dictating his visitations.
Anyway, hoping atty can help with this business. I am so done with his junk.
Please pray this atty mtg is productive. I can't afford all of this nonsense. No stress!!!
