So I finished DR chapter 5 started chapter 6 and realized I should probably wait until some of the suggested ideas are "tried". Should I stop reading at this point or continue?
I went dark as far as "constant communication" but since we are not physically separated (still under same roof, but not same room) yet, we have interactions with each other in passing or dealing with kids. As part of my "180" I came home with a positive and cheerful attitude. Last night after kids went to bed, WAW went grocery shopping and ran errands. She came home with tons of bags from the store, I was starting to sleep on the couch and heard her "wrestling around". I came into the kitchen and politely asked "Would you like help putting groceries away?" she said "Sure" so I helped and called it a night. By no means am I looking at this as a step in any direction.
This morning I took care of DD getting ready for daycare (breakfast, dressed, etc.) while DS was still sleeping. WAW was getting ready for work and putting her lunch together in the kitchen while I was in there. I took care of dishes, cleaned the counter top and picked up after the mess; stuff that I normally didn't do in the morning. I was very polite and as she said goodbye to kids, she tried leaving without saying a word to me, but I wished her "have a good day" and she responded.
My goals for today 6/30
- Stay dark unless necessary (Kids) - Be Polite & Confident when interacting - Keep my distance - Do not get into a fight no matter what the circumstance.
She is planning on taking the kids to see my sister and niece this weekend. She hasn't offered me the invite since she's worried about a 6 hour car ride together. Maybe this will be a positive thing seeing my family member and it will give us some time apart. We are scheduled for counseling next week, should I try talk to Jody before or after the session?
