When you say "I am doing much better at detaching", what EXACTLY does that mean?
In my opinion, you shouldn't be acting cold or curt - you should be exhibiting PMA. Detaching is about not letting her moods, actions, feelings, etc affect how you act. it isn't about excluding her or ignoring her.
If you stop pursuing her, it's not unreasonable to think she is going to react by further distancing herself in hopes that you will resume pursuit. I wouldn't pay too much attention.
Hope your coach gives you some great insight and a solid plan!
